Second in series based on a drashah (talk) by Rav Tzvi Meir Zilberberg of Yerushalem during the week of Parshas Korach 5757. What exactly did the Chidushei HaRim teach us by admitting that he worked on jealousy for 13 years? The first step is to admit that there is a problem. Fixing one's midos (character traits) is a long, even life-long process. Patience with oneself is very important, and success most often does not come after an inspirational shiur or weekend seminar. Protesting - every day - that I don't want to be this way. But, what must end immediately, is a life of complacency. The importance of considering our actions and thinking about what we're doing. The mistaken rationales for telling people about some of their "faults." What is the root of my motivations in my interactions with others? A woman's desire to become better. We have to invest in ourselves, work hard to even determine the root of this midah. It's not enough to work on the surface, it becomes a "house-to-house" search, an uprooting of the bad midah. If we don't get to the root, then success will be short-lived. Problems show up when our normal way to handle things doesn't work anymore for a new problem, when our emunah (faith) is being tested. The difference between believing "that" and believing "in." Just as a sickness can lie dormant for decades and emerge suddenly, so can bad midos.